About a year ago I filed for legal divorce and it was finalized last November.  At this time last year I spoke with the main priest at my parish, (Father Greg), about starting the annulment process.  He advised me to wait a year before begining the annulment process. So very soon I will once again be speaking to one of my parish priests about my annulment. 
When I first returned to the church I could not recieve communion because my marriage was invalid. I knew and accepted this before any of the priests told me this becuase God had shown me this and placed it on my heart already.  It was very difficult not recieving communion and I had to fight back tears while remaining sitting in the pew. I worked at comeing into communion with the church and spoke with Father Matt about what I needed to do to be in communion with the church. Father Matt was a blessing in my life and I am very glad he was at my parish at that time.
I know that recieving the annulment will happen since it is certain that the marriage was not valid for several reasons. Sometimes the annulment process is lenghty and difficult but I am fairly certain that will not be the case for me.  Some people wait until they are dateing again or considering re-marriage before they begin the annulment process. I don't want to wait until I have to do it, I think it is easier and proper to get this done as soon as possible even if I don't "need" to. 
What I did not understand or accept at the time of my legal marriage is that marriage is a vocation just as much as any other vocation.  All Catholics are called to know, live, and spread their faith in Christ.  In any vocation we represent the faith of the church and represent Christ himself.  If in marriage we fail to do so, we are not just failing our spouse we are failing God's Kingdom.  Marriage should reflect Jesus' relationship to the church, his love of the church.  Husbands are to love their wives just as Jesus loves the church and wives are to submit to their husbands. 
*blink ("did she really just quote that scripture? Does she REALLY believe that?")
Yes, I really just said that wives should submit to their husbands and I really believe that.  I used to have a hard time with that passage becuase I didn't understand it.  Just as many, many, others still have a hard time with that.  Let me be clear, I am not talking about submitting in the sense of some weak and inferior slave. I don't mean submitting as in allowing abuse. I don't mean submiting as in taking orders.  The way I have come to understand this is that a wife will respectfully yeild certain authority to a Godly husband who respects and loves her just as Christ loves the church.  If his authority in the household is through his submision to God. If he is submitting his will to God he will not be cruel, abusive, unfaithful, or any other such thing.  This also does not mean the wife has no voice and it does not mean the husband is always right.  The husband has the same responsibility as the wife in having respect for their spouse. If anyone reading this still doesn't understand this I recomend prayerful meditation on Ephesians 5:21-33

Because marriage is a sacrament and a vocation anyone entering into marriage should speak with a priest to be certain they are entering into it prepared to live the rest of their lives representing Christ through the example of their marriage. Including openess to life and raising their children strongly in the faith.This is why it must be done within the church and meet the requirments for a valid marriage. I will probobly write more on this topic in the future. I will likely also write about some of my opinions on other vocations, such as celibacy and the Priesthood. I believe celibacy to be one calling and vocation and Priesthood to be another calling and vocation. Sometimes the two callings are combined and sometimes not. 1Timothy 

Here is Ephesians 5:21-33

Instructions for Christian Households

 ²¹ Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.
 ²² Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. ²³ For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. ²⁴ Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.
 ²⁵ Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her ²⁶ to make her holy, cleansing^[b] her by the washing with water through the word, ²⁷ and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. ²⁸ In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. ²⁹ After all, no one ever hated their own body, but they feed and care for their body, just as Christ does the church— ³⁰ for we are members of his body. ³¹ “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.”^{[c] 32} This is a profound mystery—but I am talking about Christ and the church. ³³ However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.